What would it be like if you fully owned what you got? Fully put it out there, embrace it, love it, show it, live it.
In my experience it is much easier for clients to tell me their flaws, what they are ‘working on’, their triggers or processes. And when I ask them what they are great at, often there is a silence, or a partially held back “maybe this..”
A few weeks ago I facilitated the second weekend in the current Find Your Flavour – Circling Leadership Training.
As a leader, what came up for me in this process is the really clear realisation that I am fallible.
I cannot do everything, be everything, or have the capacity for whatever comes my way.
Ever had this thought: “O I should not judge that person”?
In our current society it is often deemed not okay to judge somebody or something. It can be deeply rooted to not speak whatever we judge somebody for, because wejudge that “not to be okay” or “not done”. (the more spiritual version of that being “that is your stuff, deal with it”)
Yet over and over I have found with myself and clients that fully owning and speaking judgements can be one of the most liberating and alivening things you can do.
These past weeks I have been struggling. I really went through the ringer, both personally, and in relationship.
And I realised this week (while I am still recovering) that one of the things that got me through it was being really honest about my own experience and communicating it.
Yet there are different ways we can communicate our experience. We can talk about it – reporting – or we can speak from it – revealing.
Owning who you are and what you want. What you feel, think, imagine, desire, intuit.
As a tool it has been a profound teaching to me. In Circling ‘owning your experience’ is pretty much rule number one, based on Non-Violent Communication. Taking full responsibility of your view of the world is the starting point to creating more depth in your relationships, and in yourself.